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Embrace The Curls

Embrace The Curls

Curly hair can be a beast to tame sometimes. I’ve tried numerous haircuts and products over the years trying to master this head of hair I’ve been blessed with. In my tenure with hair, I’ve found some winners over the last couple months. I’m going to share some curly hair tips and how I’ve learned to embrace my curls.

My Curly Hair Tips for You:

  • Find a stylist who is good at cutting curly hair. You’ll avoid coming home from a haircut with one side an inch longer than the other. Yes I had that happen in undergrad.
  • Use a microfiber towel to dry your hair. You’ll have less frizz!
  • Whatever you do don’t blow dry your hair, unless you use a diffuser.
  • Never fully dry your hair. Let it air dry.
  • I’ve found that products that cost a tad bit more are worth the investment.

Embrace the Curls

How I’ve Embraced My Curly Hair:

Embracing my curly hair has not been an easy process. On my previous blog I posted about how I’ve learned to embrace my curly hair and today I’m going to share it with you again.

I’m thankful for my curly hair.

…I am not my hair…
…I am not your expectations…
…Good hair means curls and waves…
…Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend?
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?
I am expressing my creativity…
-I Am Not My Hair, India Arie

You may be wondering why I am thankful for my hair and quoting India Arie in today’s post.  I am quoting India Arie because God has shown me that I need to love my own curly hair through this song.  Many people with curly hair have a love/hate relationship with their hair.  (I know people with straight, wavy, natural hair who also have love/hate relationships with their hair, but today I can only speak for my own experience).  I’ve struggled with believing the lie that only straight hair can be beautiful.  For example, I used to straighten my hair on a daily basis because the imperfections of my curly hair annoyed me.  God’s truly healed that area of in my life, though.  Now when I straighten my hair it’s because I had an extra half-hour in the morning, not because I hate how imperfect the curls are.  I rarely straighten my hair these days because the extra half-hour of sleep is so much better than the lies I used to believe about needing to have perfectly straight hair. During certain periods of my life I even straightened my hair everyday because I thought it made me more “beautiful and confident.” I’ve discovered that it was a pretty fake boost of confidence and beauty.

I’ve embraced my curly hair because God has made those curls, each and every one of them beautiful.  He’s “even numbering the hairs on your head!” –Matthew 10:30  I’ve been in the process of this for quite awhile, but it’s time to really truly embrace the way God made me.  If all the strands aren’t perfect it doesn’t matter and let’s face it, with having curly hair no one is probably going to notice or care anyway…and my husband still seems to kiss me whether or not my hair is behaving. (but let’s face it…he’s probably not looking at my hair)

When I was in the womb I didn’t get to pick if I had curly or straight hair.  “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;  your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” –Psalm 139:13-14  When I’ve said I don’t like my curly hair, what I’m really telling God is that I don’t like the way He created me.

So my challenge to you today is to embrace the way God made you, because He has made you beautiful just the way you are.

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    November 19, 2014 at 6:35 am

    Love this post!! I have come to love my curly hair as well!!

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      November 19, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      So glad to hear that you’ve learned to love your curls too!

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    November 19, 2014 at 1:22 pm

    DevaCurl changed my life. Now if only I could find something that would make it so my hair didn’t take 45 minutes to detangle after every wash. (Well, something beside scissors.)

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      November 20, 2014 at 4:46 pm

      Conditioner helps me with that process, maybe it will help you?

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    November 21, 2014 at 7:42 pm

    Allison, so good to read your blogs about loving yourself the way you are. Even I need the reminder to love myself the way I am. Love you, beautiful girl.

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      November 23, 2014 at 11:58 am

      Aunt Coletta! So thankful for you! You are beautiful and I can’t wait to see you soon!

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    Julie Hood
    November 24, 2014 at 1:04 pm

    I love love love this post! Your biblic insights on our self-image were so refreshing to read. It took me so long to embrace my sometimes-frizzy-sort-of-straight hair, and I used to battle it with a straightener too. (I’ve learned to let it do whatever it wants, based on the very spiritual/godly reason of I am too lazy to do that every day.) I’m stopping by from the oak and oats link up!

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      November 26, 2014 at 11:46 am

      Hi Julie! Thanks for stopping by, I hope to hear more from you in the future. So glad to hear that you’ve also learned to embrace your hair! Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Callie Nicole
    December 17, 2014 at 10:50 am

    Oo, this was convicting. I have curly hair, and I still struggle with it a lot – I am more okay with it than I used to be, but I still straighten it most days.

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      Tania Caruana
      December 17, 2014 at 12:14 pm

      I’m with you Callie! It is ridiculous the amount of time i spend straightening my thick, curly, frizzy hair. It actually really affects my life! I enjoyed reading this Allison and hope one day I can embrace my curls but highly doubt it! The humidity and rain are my enemy and very rarely would I have a good hair day. I’m so jealous of people with straight hair or a nice curl/wave that doesn’t frizz! First world problems!!

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        December 19, 2014 at 9:06 am

        Tania! I’m praying you embrace your hair no matter what it looks like for the day! I live in a very rainy climate now and rain and straight hair just don’t go together. You are beautiful!

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      December 19, 2014 at 9:05 am

      I used to straighten mine almost everyday too. Praying that you will embrace the beautiful person that you are whether you wear your hair straight or curly!

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